Over a year ago, I walked past a mirror and noticed a significant bulging of my neck. After mentally freaking out, I called the Dr. to get in the next day.
I was at the Dr. the week before for bronchitis/sinus infection so maybe the virus turned into something a little more neck focused. Is that even a thing? Let’s google that.
I self-diagnosed that my thyroid was enlarged and it turns out it was 3 times the size of a normal sized one.
That turned into a host of tests and diagnosis from Celiac to Hashimoto’s. I now have many blood draws a year due to having 3/4ths of my thyroid out in June.
No cancer, thank goodness.
Before I had any diagnosis, I gained about 25lbs in 15 months’ time. Gaining weight due to a bum thyroid is no joke people. Having issues with gluten only added onto the already perfect storm of weight gain. Inflammation is now my enemy #1.
To say that I was not functioning very well during that time is an understatement. I remember when my endocrinologist looked at my numbers and said
“You know you’ve only been functioning with 40% brain power.”
That may be surprising for those who know me. I was a high functioning 40% for sure, but I can tell you that I wasn’t all right. For a long time, I could tell that my brain was just not working. I would be unable to process thoughts or forget words of items that were right in front of me. I was sleeping up to 14 hours a day. The 3:00pm crash time was like I was in a coma.
Since diagnosis, proper treatment, a surgery, and a pretty radical diet overhaul, I have lost that weight. And that’s good. I’m not complaining and honestly hope it continues. All indications point to that happening. It’s sloooowwwww, but it’s happening.
And my brain and overall health? So good.
My auto immune disease is in remission. My brain function is back. I don’t nap any more. I haven’t had a sinus infection, ear infection or anything that has required the Dr. since diagnosis. I feel pretty damn good.
So stop asking me if I’ve lost weight.
First, because my weight is none of your business.
No one ever asked if I gained the weight when I did so how does losing weight make the topic open for discussion?
Because my health is more important than my appearance.
As a matter of fact, stop asking any women if they’ve lost weight.
Because maybe they have and it’s not because they wake up at 5:50am to do Pilates, eat kale all day, and kick box in the afternoons.
Maybe it’s because they lost a loved one. Maybe it’s because they’ve been diagnosed with cancer. Maybe they have a mental illness.
Maybe they don’t know why.
So next time you suspect a women has lost weight, instead of asking about her appearance, talk about her as a person.
“How are you feeling lately?”
“You look really healthy, happy, or alive.”
There is only shallow confidence to be gained by receiving weight loss compliments and my health and soul goes so much deeper.