Is there anything more uncomfortable than seeing someone who identifies as male being emotionally vulnerable?
Think about it. If you see a younger boy, a teenager or a man who is being emotionally vulnerable, what is your reaction?
Do you think “That boy,kid,man needs to suck it up” “Man up” “Stop crying and be a man”
Or even worse yet “I didn’t know they felt that way.”
If you ever ask that last question maybe pause and ask what steps you could have taken to find out how they felt about something. Don’t place your generic and average societal views on a situation that is unique to that person and their emotions.
I’ve been raising 2 sons for 15 years and unfortunately I’ve seen all the above in real time and furthermore have experienced societal judgement in letting my own sons have emotions to which I reply every time:
Oh Hell No.
I have a highly emotionally charged family. Two of us emotion *outward* and 2 of us emotion *inward.* If you’re personally familiar with my family at all, it’s not going to be hard to distinguish who is who in that scenario.
Regardless of how we as a family experience our emotions, they are all valid and important to acknowledge and most importantly, SUPPORT.
I can’t tell you how many times I’ve been made to feel “less than” as a parent for letting my kids MY SONS have emotions and then take steps to support them in society while they are still young and without authority.
I see conflicting views of how we should raise our boys. I hear “Don’t raise the next mass killer” next to “That boy needs to suck it up and move on.”
Honestly, I’m tired of it.
And more so, I don’t care how you’re going to judge me for supporting my sons to have emotions in any way they feel they can. I am their support. I am their ear, their advocate, and their voice until they are listened to by society that deems them “not ready yet” for their own self advocacy.
I am raising my kid to have emotions and a voice. Are you ready to listen.