My Most Important Post Ever

I’m going to say that I’m not even kidding when I say before you read this get tissues.

My husband’s company hired someone who was going to be working with my husband.

She worked out of another office location.

When my husband is going to be working with someone I always ask about those people.

I did my usual series of questions. “Where did she come from, do you like her, is she married, etc?”

I also usually ask if they have kids. I don’t know why. I’ll probably never meet these people or their kids.

The following is something I never will forget.

Me: So does she have kids?

Him: Yes, 3 kids all boys. Two are hers and one is her nephew.

Me: Oh, did something happen to the mom?

Him: You could say that.

He then directed me to THIS

Take a moment. I know. I know.

There are no words to express my complete shock that is this story.

This is the site set up for him. Heroes for

There is no way I could do nothing. Not with the tears that fill up my eyes just writing this. Nothing is not right. Nothing is not who I am.

This extraordinary woman has stepped up as an Angel to help a child. A helpless child.

I can’t even imagine the span of emotions she must feel on a daily basis.

The years of therapy, emotional and physical.


The least I can do is use my platform (even if small) here to help.

This is right. It’s the right thing to do.

Won’t you help?

*This Paypal is my account. It was the easiest way for me to do this without requiring work on their end.
*Please know that 100% of donations will go to Heroes for Holden
*If you are more comfortable donating directly, please go to site for address.

The following generous offers have been made:

@MonicaBenavidez: It’s official. 10% of all my sales from my shop this week will go to Holden

@LifeWithLevi: I’ll pledge $50 to @thenextmartha’s cause if I get 50 new FB fans by February 1st

@mireyamayor: If you buy this book “Pink Boots and a Machete: My Journey From NFL Cheerleader to National Geographic Explorer” I will donate $5 from each sale.

64 thoughts on “My Most Important Post Ever

  1. I shared this via FB and Twitter. It is one of the most horrific things I have ever heard. PayPal is being a beatch. When I try to sign in it says I don't have an account. When I try to set up a new account, it says I can't because I already have an account. I spent easily 15 minutes going back and forth. Finally, I decided to go to the site and get the info for the foundation. If ever there was a worthy cause – this is it! I'm donating!

  2. Wow, my God, a reason to squeeze the kids extra tight and also to remember to thank God for all the angels in the world. I am so proud to be the President of your Fan Club and more than happy to donate.

  3. OMG. Seriously, just reading that story, made me so sad but then I was happy.. that he is okay.. but OMG. :(

    Thank you for doing something. Thank you so much. Going to share this! :D

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  6. An unimaginable act of selfishness by his biological mother. [Although, using the word "mother," in this instance, doesn't seem appropriate].

    This is an important post Jennifer….thank you.

  7. the breath has been knocked from my body, all I can do is hope to help spread the word, and know that the internet will lift him up in a huge virtual hug. I joined the links and put his badge on my site.

  8. I cannot understand the horror this child has suffered. I can applaud and send prayers to the Aunt who has opened her arms to this beautiful boy, what a saviour. I didnt cry as i felt the warmth that this lady and your good self have, by bringing this to the forefront of the cyberworld. I wish i could afford to help sadly, i cannot, but i wholeheartedly wish you all the very best and i also spread the word, so that this little boy will grow to be a beautiful adult.

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  11. This breaks my heart! What a blessing for Holden to have such wonderful people around him to love him and help him through. It sounds like this little guy has got an amazing personality! What a tragedy that he should have to endure this, at the hands of someone who should love him. My heart is broken!

  12. Wow, this is the worst thing I've heard in a long time. There are some seriously sick individuals out there.
    It's awesome that you are taking action on helping this family. Thanks for sharing this.

  13. Truly a horrific story with at least a somewhat "happy" ending, if you can call it that. Definitely happy to see that his aunt was able to step in help in his recovery process.

    Now, on to what might get me flamed, but that's never stopped me before.

    As a father, I can't even begin to imagine what Holden's father is going through will all of this. From what I can tell, he wasn't involved in the assault, and appears to have done the right thing in giving him up so he could get better medical benefits. Yes, he probably should have thought more carefully about having a child with a woman that was addicted to drugs and all of that, but I don't know all the details so I refuse to judge him on that. Maybe he knew, maybe he didn't. All I know is that for as bad as I feel for Holden and what he will have to go through for the rest of his life, I also feel bad for his father and the guilt he will carry for the rest of HIS life.

    Just thinking about having to give one (or all) of my kids up for ANY reason is enough to break my heart. My hat is off to him for "manning up" and doing what's best for Holden.

    To Holden's family, if I've missed something regarding his father, please feel free to correct me and I'll retract my statements.

  14. I couldn't even read your link. Just based on your first paragraph and the comments, I couldn't do it. I have two little boys so I was too scared to read it. I'm a coward. I gave money. I hope it helps.

    • I am a friend of the family and a volunteer working on a large fundraiser. He is the most precious little boy and will steal your heart at first site. It is devastating what he has been through. He has so much love given to him by his family. With this love from them, friends, and wonderful people donating like all of you, he is so blessed. Keep all of them in your prayers and thank all of you so much for your thoughts, prayers, and donations.

  15. Holden is my great nephew, so obviously, we have been living with this from day one. Thank you for all of your loving, heart-felt posts. And, certainly, thank you for the original post here. As tragic as his story is, yes, he could not be wrapped in a better, kind, loving, unselfish family. He is right where he needs to be.
    I hope all of you get to meet Holden one day. It will be a meeting you will never forget. He is so special. (I should have heeded your warning about the tissues, too)
    God bless all of you for caring,
    Cinder (because that's what Holden calls me)

  16. I don’t understand how someone could be so inherently evil. I hope that woman never sees the outside of prison. Yet I am so happy Holden has a new, loving family. And I am so thankful my girls are healthy. Thanks for sharing.

  17. I didn't listen to your warning and now I'm sitting here with teary eyes and a runny nose and not a tissue in sight. My heart aches for this little boy and, at the same time, I'm so happy he has a new mother who loves him so very much. Thank you for posting this. I'm off to do what I can…

  18. My hands are shaking. The horror in the story sent chills down my spine. And then my heart is warm at the same time from the love that Holden has been receiving and also giving. I don't know how to describe my reactions or what to say. But thank you for letting us know about Holden's story.

  19. That story is both horrific and wonderful at the same time. That a child should have to endure something so horrible at the hands of his own mother is a tragedy. That he should end up in the care of such a wonderful family is a blessing.

  20. I don’t even know what to say. I don’t usually listen to grab tissue warnings because I don’t cry easily. I wish I would have listened to you since I’m now sobbing in the carpool line and worried one of these women will come talk to me.

    Unbelieavable. And so terribly sad.

  21. I just want to pull my little boy close and hug him tight after reading this. How in the world can someone do this to anyone let alone their own child? Bless the aunt for taking him in and showering him with all the love his own mother didn't have the capacity to. And Bless you for writing this and sharing their story so others would know and be able to help.

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  23. I will pass on this information so that many people can also help to contribute,
    Its horrible this could hapen , this is devastating.

  24. Yes, I remember when this happened. I live about a half mile from where her apartment was. Such a tragedy and such a sweet little boy. I’m glad to hear the woman who gave birth to him got such a strong sentence. It has not been mentioned in our local news at all. I’m donating and I will pass this on to everyone I know.

    Sean Elizabeth

  25. I will be passing this along and donating as well. What a heartbreaking story. I can't even begin to fathom how something like this happens but thank God for this wonderful woman and her family taking this boy into their care.

  26. I can't even imagine; I'm sobbing right now. God bless that little angel and his aunt for stepping up and giving him the family that he deserves. How can we NOT help them?!

  27. You are awesome for helping out this little boy. I donated and I hope you get many more donations. I really hope they can make his life as emotionally stable as possible. Thank God she stepped up to help.

  28. Oh my gosh. This is so heartbreaking. But what a hero his new mother (aunt) is. He is a very lucky little boy to have such a caring woman in his life to love him as her own.

    my thoughts are with this family.

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